4 POSITIVE BEHAVIORS THAT CAN HELP A MARRIAGE:

1. Softened start up when confronting a sensitive issue.  Begin by NOT criticizing partner or insulting them.  Focus on the issue and how it can be resolved.  Use "we" often when you talk about it.

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Example: I find that we are having trouble spending time together.  I would like to see you more but it seems we have gotten off track.

2. Turning Toward your partner - reaching out for an emotional connection.. “Emotional bids” a comment, question, smile, or a hug.  This behavior is good in general but espeicially when you are having a disagreement.  

              You can respond to the bid in 3 different ways-

              1. Turn away, ignore bid

              2. Turn against, react with anger

              3. Turn toward, show you are open, listen and engaged

3. Repairing the Conversation- When a conversation gets heated, find ways to deescalate anger.

example: Apology, smile, looking at what you can do differently.

4. Accepting influence – Husband’s willingness to compromise can make a big difference in a marriage.  However, it helps that both people are open and willing to change.  What can you do differently that you are not doing now?

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